Easy Like Sunday Mornin'.....

Happy Sunday to all you lovely Kathy's out there. I just want to say if you've checked out my blog, even if just to skim...THANK YOU! I plan on doing my utmost to make this blog great so...again, I appreciate it. We will discuss many things here in The Files. The Sunday post will usually be reflective of the week. I talked alot about self image, self esteem and self worth this passed week. I also touched on how much we black women seem to lack all of the latter. So on Sunday's retrospective I'm gonna share a recent, and personal story to show you how it affects all of us. And if you've gone through it, your not alone.

I was working out in the gym with my cousin...who by the way is one of the most gorgeous women you'll ever meet! So there we were, she with her flowing raven locks, gorgeous cinnamon complexion and me no makeup or hair to speak of. We saw these two men, both GORGEOUS. One politely made eye contact and smiled at her. She even told me he flirted a little. I couldn't help to glow green with envy thinking: Oh if only I had hair, skin, a body like HER...then maybe. And then I stopped myself. I realized I don't need a man in my life who doesn't like me for ME. Not the fake hair I can sew into my head or the makeup I can pile onto my face. This is me, straight, no chaser. You don't like it...that's fine. I'm positive someone will. However, I am human and I have feelings. Many times our feelings of self worth as women, especially Westernized black women, is tied up in our physical features. How big, long, or light something on ourself is. Instead of how giving, loving, nuturing, or kind we are. We worship asthetics...and the trickle down affect has been one of a great detrement to our esteem. We affirm our happiness, success or value by what we wear, what we look like, who thinks we're attractive, ect. We dont find the time to love ourselves for just being OURSELVES. Uniquely God made us! Its much harder than it sounds.

So I leave you with this today: Try and take some time to focus on things YOU like about you (damn what somebody else thinks!). Write it down, say them out loud. Validate them, over and over again. And know that God created you JUST the way you are for a reason. So love that person you see. In turn, I garuntee people will love you back.