Is it safe to say there is no Mr. Right?

Every time I turn on the TV or look into a magazine or listen to the radio there is someone claiming to be an expert on how to find the "right" guy. As if there is a cookie cutter prototype of what a "good man" looks like, or how much money he makes, or what he should look like, or where he should live. I am here to tell you said man doesn't exist. At least not the way it does in the average woman psyche.

Simply think of how different you and the sistah you see in the mall are. Just think of the different lives we all lead and how varied our tastes and lifestyles are. How could there possibly be one type of man for all us? If you think of it in that way, it sounds almost absurd. I personally believe that every single person on this earth has one person, or several persons but if your lucky one single person who balances and fits their lifestyle and their personal believe system quite nicely. And it has nothing to do with the size of that person's bank account or how asymmetrical their features are. Not wholly, simply because those things are quite superficial. They do not have much to do with what really attracts you to a nice person.

I've noticed a sickeningly profuse trend of making black women feel like they have the plague and will die alone. Everywhere you turn there's a talk show, a CNN special or a book telling you you're single, your lonely, deal with it! I, for one, think that's a bunch of malarkey. How can you make an ignorant, blanketed statement like that about such a vast amount of people. Every time someone spouts one of those stupid statistics I always ask them where they got it from and if I can cross reference the pool of "black women" polled for such silly statistics. Cuz it aint everybody! There is no perfect man, set out on his white horse with cape in tow ready to save and betroth every single young lady on the face of the planet.

Men are just people like us! Why would you burden a man, whether real or imagined with the task of being your "everything". Even the best man could never be that. One should instead fill their life with friends and laughter and platonic friendships both male and female and learn to live, instead of crossing your fingers and toes waiting for Mr. Right to arrive. Or using all your well learned tricks and advice to go sluth him out. Stop looking at the physical, both financial and appearance wise, to weed out a "good man". Your good man may be a garbage man, or may right now be unemployed. Yes there are good men that are "unemployed", every man without a job is a broke down buster. A man with integrity, with ambition, with drive and with morals. That's Mr.Right to me? Yours could be someone adventurous, witty and who loves cats? Who am I to tell you, or any one else? Just make sure your happy and that will be all that matters.