Daily Hill H. Dosage

Ya'll know that I don't ever get enough of my man, aka future husband he just dont know it yet, Hill Harper. Well Hill is coming out with a book on healthy relationships in the black community.It comes out in stores September eighth! Can we say woot woot? I'm getting two!hehe.He's already done two books for young people, this one is for adults. I definitely dig his committment to our betterment. It just makes me love him more. BTW isn't the pic with the dog ADORABLE?!? Swoon, I heart him!

Ummm...okay?

So today's Ummm Okay? moment goes to.....Snoop Do-Oh-Double. The above picture was taken at a party in St.Tropez over the weekend. So...that's how we're doing it now, Snoopy? This bothers me for a number of reasons the most obvious is THIS NEGRO'S MARRIED, and THAT is not his wife. He had a whole show dedicated to his RE-dedication to his family, his wife and marriage. Snoop the Family Guy was a hard pill for most to swallow, but eventually they did. And they gave him props, I included, in stoppin the bufoonery that was his whole pimp and ho' mentality that he had a hand in running rampant through our community.

I see old dogs clearly CANT learn new tricks. smh. This is the reason women need to be very careful who they mate, and procreate with. If the man isn't treating you right, having his children will not make him do so. That will just bring more drama into YOUR life, coparenting with a man that doesn't respect you or his committment to you. This why I'm squimish about the whole monogamy, marriage thing. The institution is beautiful and sacred but it has been muddied over so many times that it simply doesn't hold the value it once did. People don't feel cheating is a big deal. IT IS A BIG DEAL! If your not ready to commit, don't get married! Plain and simple,simple and plain. Siiiiigh. Im through.

Friday Eye Candy: Mr.Legend

Sigh, it's that time again. And yes, I know you haven't been getting your day to day rundown of yours truly but a girl's been having some technical and emotional issues lately. I told you before you're gonna have to ride with me through the kinks, but I promise, give me six months and ya girl will have her own laptop and *hopefully* a blackberry to keep Chatterbox updated.

So....anyway, back to why we're here. Eye Candy o' the day. And today it is John Legend. Mr. Legend is aptly named, in a sea of mediocre artist all singing about bumpin and grindin, he's the rare new schooler with some class and some brains. John has three albums under his belt and they're all brilliant! His newest being Evolver, which gave us the oh so singable hit "Green Light". Everytime I need to go someplace, the grocery store to the bathroom I'm singing "I'm ready to go right nooooow". LOL. I love John for being a true artist, musician, vocalist and GENTLEMAN in a world of oversexed casinovas. He does my heart good, and he's not too bad on the eyes either.
Enjoy!

Happy Birthday Mommy/RIP Aaliyah

Today is Chatterbox's mommy's bday. I am so happy to have the fam I have. I've already given the proverbial happy birthday "I love you mommy" call. She's not big on such occasions so there's no big to do involved. Just letting her know that I love her and glad she was born, cuz if not...I wouldnt be here!!!!

On a sadder note, my lovely momma shares her date of birth with the date of death for such a beautiful and talented young woman. It scares me that it's been eight years!!! It doesn't feel that long ago. Anyone who knows anything about me knows I was a HUGE Aaliyah fan. She was my everything. In a sea of uber sexy big booty artists, Aaliyah was smooth and subtly sexy. She had a cool factor that couldn't be matched. She was flyy! Dance moves, fashion, everything she did, I wanted to do!!!! I even did a posthumous tribute to her in a talent show. And in my unbeweaveable days I was a dead ringer for her. It almost scared people when I put on the shades and leather pants. That was my GIRL! And I still miss her. I cried like a baby when she died, I cried like she was really my sister or something. A little peice of RnB music (especially new contempary RnB) died with Ms. Haughton, and it hasn't been duplicated since. Nobody and I mean nobody fills Aaliyah's shoes. And nobody ever will. God bless her spirit. She will always live on in my heart, and my leather pants!

Don't Throw Your Pearls Amongst Swine!

So Im up on this Tuesday morning, a-strolling for blog topics and I happen upon a vid by my lovely girl Jia. Jia of Jia TV is what I call an all the way real sister. She talk alot of ish but she can back it up! So low and behold she has what I call "Put'em on Blast" moment that got me to thinking. Synopsis of Jia's plight, she met a man, thought said man was cool, decided to sleep with said man and it was...HORRIBLE! Needless to say I'm sure that man probably regrets ever dissapointing Miss Thing because now his lack of skill in the bedroom is YouTube fodder for thousands, if not millions of people to laugh at. Sad story, I know.

However my point in even bringing something of this nature up is to explain why I'm celebate. Oh wait, you didn't kno that did you? Well now you know. Ms.Chatterbox is abstaining, until further notice. And contrary to belief, I'm not "saving it" for marriage. I'm "saving it" for a real true connection to another being I feel worthy of giving myself to. Ergo, my title, why throw your pearls before swine? I hate to have to hit ya with a Bible verse but it applies. Think about how most men behave, pretty swine like if ya ask me. There's even a condom commercial where all the men ARE swine except the one that brings protection. Things that make you go hmmmm.

I truly feel as if women should learn the power of their vagina. Yes, vagina. I should warn that I tend to be a little unihibited with the sex talk. You've been warned! Your vagina is an amazing tool. A life giving force, a receptive power that not only recieves but gives. It gives the greatest gift of all: ANOTHER HUMAN LIFE! Now for something so powerful we have reduced our sexuality to body parts and their sizes and totally forgot the spiritual aspect of sex. Yes, there's a spiritual aspect to sex! That is why people will be quick to tell you there's a difference between having sex and making love. What exactly is the difference? Does your body behave differently, do parts grow that weren't there during unattached sex? No! What's different is there is more than a physical connection with the person you are involved in the sex act with. You normally care very much about the person and ergo making the act more loving, more beautiful, more personal.

Don't get me wrong, sex is a beautiful thing. It's how we all got here! And there's something very spiritual about the connecting of two beings to make another one. However, where Jia and many other women break my heart is that they choose people unworthy of the gift of being inside their vagina. Seriously! It's like finding out that you have gold in your backyard, only to carelessly flail it in the streets or give it to a crackhead for them to sell your precious gold for five dollars and a fix. Most unenlightened men...are like crackheads! Sex is just a fix for them. It's something they NEED, not something they desire and are willing to work to get. For them, your vagina was just a means to an end, an orgasm, or in some cases just ejaculation. We'll get into true orgasms later. They don't care about pleasing you, pleasing YOU wasn't even on the agenda. They got what they wanted, so YOU don't matter. And you let this no good excuse of a man have the most precious thing you've GOT!

Now I'm not saying that the vagina is like a frequent flyer card, or a bank account. There is no such thing as a used up, or overrun vagina. The amount of traffic does not a "good" or bad vagina make. You need'nt count on fingers and toes HOW MANY men you've been with because in the long run it truly doesnt matter. Each experience is different, and each experience serves a purpose, whether your aware of it or not. Most...are not. So they continue to sleep with people that are truly undeserving, and then wind up dissapointed. It's not the man whom you gave it up to's fault if he did not please you, especially if you never say anything. But if we're dealing with someone you barely know, you usually don't feel comfortable telling that man he's not doing it right. Afraid he may just blow up and go crazy because of his fragile ego being bruised. So that's the purpose of being with men that you know will cherish your treasure, instead of selling it for five dollars. Men who truly appreciate women are all about pleasing that woman. REAL MEN don't need instruction manuals on how and when to please a woman.

So be choosy my sisters, be safe and be careful. And know that you are precious and worth more than gold and any man who doesn't realize that...is NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!

Until next time

Chatterbox

Friday Eye Candy: Two For One!

Since I've been slacking on my blogging pimping lately I decided to give you a twofer in the hotness category. First, being super sexy super talented Maxwell (no last name needed). Maxwell has been hot for almost a decade,truly a feat in this fickle industry of comers and goers. It's not only his pretty mug that gets the women a-swooning, but also his extreme talent as well as his deep, honest and beautiful lyrics. He is truly a testament that good music, has not died completely. And if he can keep looking like that while doing it...then I'm all ears.

Honarable Mention

Oh TJ, TJ, TJ how we heart thou. I'll keep my comments about Mr.Holmes brief, since I wouldn't want a cyber beat down from Danielle of BlackSnob. It is thanks to Ms.Snob that I am even aware of the beauty that is TJ Holmes. Since I am not a big CNN gawker, I conviently missed this gawjus specimen of a man. So I thank her and CNN for giving me a reason to watch the news outside of the other man of my dreams: Mr.President, aka the Sexiest President to hit the Oval Office EVER! So enjoy, ladies, your two for one on this lovely Friday. Still more to come. Black men are beautiful.

Love you guys!

Smooches!

Chatterbox

Can It Be Done????

Okay in the vein of friendship, there's this age old question that never seems to be answered satisfactorily: Can men and women be JUST FRIENDS??? My answer: Why, of course! Why? Because any one is capable of being anything to another person. Excuse my graphic langauge but just because you were born with a vajajay and he with a penis doesnt mean that you somehow must get it on with each other. What ever happen to this thing called self discipline. Because I've heard folks say "Well if your both attracted to one another...". And my question back to them is "How many people have you been physically attracted to that you slept with?" We're human, so yes we'll be attracted to one another. But that doesn't mean you always ACT upon said urges.

I honestly have more male friends than female. It's always been that way. I've just always been more attracted and comfortable around male energy. Blame it on having five brothers. See, in the above picture of my sexy future husband, he's with his FRIEND. He and Gabby have been friends for years! And I'm guessing because she's attractive, and he's attractive,people assume they have to have slept together, RIGHT? Wrong. Folks it is possible to like the company of the opposite sex with out it having to hit the sheets. We live in a very hormone driven world. And the fact that anyone can do without immediately satisfying whatever urges they may have is more forgien to people than a pig speaking Latin.

I seriously encourage plutonic male companionship, how else are you going to be aware of how men behave toward you or women in general outside of a relationship. It helps you learn about yourself, as well as teaches you a lot about MEN...trust me, talking to your girlfriends about men all the time is not the way to go. Go to the source, it will make your love life easier. Let me also add that plutonic friendships CAN turn into romantic ones, but being friends FIRST, and only friends with no hidden agenda, can strengthen the relationship in ways you couldnt imagine. Lovers turn into boyfriends, FRIENDS, true friends, turn into husbands. Believe that.

So I urge you, take that risk...be JUST FRIENDS, and see what comes out of it. You'd be pleasantly surprised at how full your life will become when men serve more purpose in your life than just a temporary, fleeting presence.

Over and out

Ms.Chatterbox